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Charlottesville Attacks Spiritual Perspective

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Charlottesville Attacks Spiritual Perspective

I wanted to give my perspective, from a strictly spiritual standpoint, on what I feel the entire circumstance in Charlottesville represented, and what it is showing us as a collective consciousness.

What Is Going On?

As I watched a 22 minute video from Vice media which followed a group of the alt-right in the Charlottesville rallies, I was astounded at the hatred and sadness that spewed from each individual. I was shocked to see how horribly the groups’ words were toward non-white individuals. I couldn’t believe not only what I heard, but what I saw from them. I truly did not realize how many people still truly felt that way towards other human beings.

Then I watched a video of civil war monuments, confederate monuments, being removed from Baltimore. As I watched the monuments being removed I asked my guides, I asked Archangel Michael, and I asked my soul…why? Why is all of this happening? Why are people treating each other this way? Why are we removing symbols of the history of the United States? And I was given my response…

 

The Reason For Such Atrocity

As a collective consciousness we are witnessing these situations because they are still prevalent in our collective pain-body. A pain-body is an emotional trauma that has yet to be acknowledged and healed in our spiritual and sub-conscious being. As a whole, we are all emanations from the One Source. As much as we like to propagate the idea that we are separate in our human-ness, we are far more alike than we could ever be different. Our souls are truly united as One collective being, that which we like to call God. As such, when we have collective experiences, traumatic experiences, it represents a part of our collective soul that has yet to be healed.

The circumstances in Charlottesville represent the lack of acknowledgement and healing in the form of racism and segregation. We, as a whole, have not healed our hearts when it comes to racism. And even more so, the alt-right groups represent the ignorance of our spiritual unity that many of us still carry. The reason that these groups show up, is because they are the shadow aspect of each and every one of us that has yet to be acknowledged and healed. And the combatant behavior that we vehemently continue towards these groups is the lack of love and care we refuse to show our individual selves.

Our lives are a continual “sweeping under the rug” of our problems and things we fight to accept within ourselves. We refuse to heal the wounds of our neglectful parents. We refuse to heal the wounds of our elementary school bullies. We refuse to heal the wounds of our first and second and third heartbreak. We refuse to heal the wounds of our…you get the point. We refuse to delve into the depths of our shadow! But you know what?!?! That is the ONLY way that these situations will change!

It is not through vehement opposition or complaining about how terrible these groups of people are that we will heal as a collective. No, because these groups of people are extensions of those very parts of US! We are allowed to get angry, we are allowed to be disappointed, we are allowed to be sad, but to condemn other human beings is not the way in which the world will change. I’m not going to throw out all of the quotes from Gandhi or Buddha or any other master teacher because you have heard them all before. On a subconscious spiritual level we KNOW that the only way to heal the collective is to start by being brave enough to heal those parts of ourselves first!

When I looked at the Civil War monuments being removed I thought to myself, “Why remove a piece of history that has helped us become who we are? That has taught us who we were and who we want to now be?” Honestly, that is like removing the parts of our lives that were troubling. Why would we remove the parts of our lives that sucked but showed us how strong we could be? Why would we remove the experiences of our lives that taught us our most important lessons? That is like removing all the good parts of the book or movie and it all just being rainbows and butterflies. That shit is boring! The spectrum of pain and joy is what makes being human so fantastic!!

Take a moment to look back at your life and think of 5 major experiences. More than likely at least 2 of them will be “not so wonderful.” A lyric from The Oh Hello’s sums it up perfectly, “The sun it does not cause us to grow. It is the rain that will strengthen your soul, it will make you whole.” Removing the history of your life does not make you a better person, it makes you a weaker soul.

We all have our own individual interpretations of what certain monuments and historical places mean to us. However, if we are having an emotional reaction to those things we can know immediately that we have a pain-body that has yet to be healed. That is the very reason that we march to have things removed or to oppose groups that we disagree with. The very reason for an emotional response is exactly what I have stated above, our own individual inability to deal with emotional pain and trauma.

How We Can Heal

So now that I’ve given my opinion on why these things are happening I want to briefly express how I feel we can change the world.

First and foremost, as you have figured out by making it this far, is to look within yourself and truly be willing to ask yourself where you still have emotional responses. Did watching the video of the car run into the group of people and kill Heather Heyer make you mad and sad all at the same time? Yes? Me too! So what are we going to do about it? Did it make you mad that someone could be so angry and filled with hate towards another person? Yes? Well me too! Okay, so let’s ask ourselves when was the last time we were angry and filled with hate towards another person? Was it while you were driving and got cut off? Was it from somebody that insulted you and laughed at you? Was it from your arrogant co-worker that just won’t stop talking? Yes? Well me too! Now let’s go a little deeper…

So we have this anger, WITHIN OURSELF, that was cultivated by somebody else’s words or behavior. We have this experience that brought out from WITHIN US a certain emotion. When we look at it this way we can see that the anger was not GIVEN to us, but rather already existed WITHIN US and was brought to the surface by our perception of another person’s actions or words. So, nobody MADE us angry but simply ALLOWED us to feel the anger that already presided within us.

Okay, now let us take a step back. So we can see from our process that we are not the anger, but rather we have the ability to bring it forth or not. We have ultimate control over the emotion or not based upon the way we perceive the situation or person. Great, now we are getting somewhere. So the emotion is there, but it isn’t YOU. The emotion is there, but it doesn’t control you, because you have a higher awareness of IT. We’re moving now.

So how do we heal this and make other people act less like jerks? If you asked this question, we aren’t on the right track.

Let’s pull back. So I have this situation where I FEEL anger, not I AM angry. You are not anger. You FEEL anger. Okay. So how do we heal this? How do we heal this anger? Oooh, much better question. The anger is resolved when we acknowledge it and accept it. Don’t fight it, don’t resist it, and don’t let it control you. Look at the anger as a leaf flowing through the stream of your being. The river flowing through you is love, is goodness, is God-ness. And as an extension of God, you get to choose what you want to feel in any moment. Your recognition of this is the beginning of healing.

The anger becomes a leaf falling from the tree. Others leaves will also fall, but they don’t last when you acknowledge and know that you are the tree. The stream of God-ness that you are is far more powerful that a leaf flowing through it. If you will but take your attention to the power of your stream, and realize that the leaf is there and it will pass, then you heal the pain-body. As a result of you acknowledging that within yourself, acknowledging the situation when it arises, and CHOOSING to remember your Divine Inheritance, your stream of God-ness, that my friends is when healing across a broad spectrum occurs.

The water in a cup may look clear. However, when a blue drop is introduced into the water, the entirety of the water changes ever so slightly. This is how we bring our collective out of pain, out of suffering. WE, you and I, must start with ourselves. That is the only way we can heal as a collective. There is no amount of yelling and arguing that will heal the hearts of others, that will simply make them rebel more. There is no amount of ridicule that will change somebody’s opinions and beliefs. It is truly only through Love that we can heal. Think about the last time somebody changed your mind by telling you that you were wrong.

I will leave you with a Bible quote about moving through your shadows. Also, read the picture below that explains “Why Do We Shout In Anger.”

“{A Psalm of David.} The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.

2He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters.

3He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake.

4Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil: for thou art with me; thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.

5Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies: thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.

6Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life: and I will dwell in the house of the LORD for ever.”

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F**k What Everyone Else I Doing…Run Your Race

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F**k what everyone else is doing and run your race! Forget what everyone else is saying about you…if you are living authentically to the knowing of your heart and soul, run that race to the fullest!

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F*ck The Law of Attraction

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F*ck The Law of Attraction

This is a response video to a spiritual teacher who said to f*ck the law of attraction. My response addresses what I feel is the biggest inconsistency with those of us who believe in the law of attraction and how we can go about changing it so that we live free.

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The Art of Happiness

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The Art of Happiness

Lately I’ve been asking myself how I can affect the world? I asked myself today, “How can I help others experience the joy and sheer happiness that I live each day?” I thought about the wonderful life I live. I thought about my amazingly perfect finance. I thought about the fact that I just celebrated my 12 year anniversary on February 12th of my bone marrow transplant. I thought about the fact that I get to open my eyes each morning, that I get to wake up in a warm bed, that I get to spend money on delicious foods, that I have the option to go and exercise at an amazing gym. And I thought, “Why doesn’t everyone know how to experience the joy and happiness I do?” Here’s my answer…

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Where Is Happiness?

Happiness. What is it? Where is it? As a life coach the first thing I hear from my clients is, “I want this, or I want that, or I need direction here, or I need perspective here.” What I respond with always is, “Why?” Why do we want anything other than what we see in front of us? Why don’t want we want to live in our now moments? Why are we always searching for something else? Typically the response is, “Because I’m not happy where I’m at!” Ah ha! So really the underlying desire is to find happiness. And I use that phrase loosely because that is what we tend to hear. “Go find your happiness!” “Seek to find joy.” As if joy and happiness are some external pot of gold at the end of your new boyfriend rainbow…or perhaps at the end of your lottery rainbow…EVEN BETTER! And so you seek and you seek and you seek, but that rainbow continually evades you until you are left in despair and sadness.

So I ask my clients, “Mrs. Jones, where is your happiness?” “I don’t know Zach that’s why I called you!” We have developed these habits of understanding that happiness is outside of my realm of existence. When somebody tells me I’m good at something, or I’m beautiful, or I’m smart, or I’m funny, or when someone really really really understands me then I’ll be happy. So then you meet someone who tells you you’re beautiful and you’re happy then they stop texting you and you’re sad, then someone looks you in the eye and really listens to you and you’re happy, but then they avoid you and you’re depressed. Constantly riding the teeter-totter of other-induced emotional chaos. And then you and your friends get together and talk about how Dillon is a dick for not texting you good morning or how he’s changed and doesn’t treat you like you deserve to be treated anymore, and you suffer.

Here you are, being thrown on the tumultuous sea of relationship-induced emotion, or work-induced emotion, and you forget to ask yourself where your emotion comes from and resides. So where is it? Who in this now moment is experiencing pain? Fear? Anger? Resentment? Hope? Joy? Happiness? It is only you. And where do these emotions emanate? Why of course…it’s YOU! When you have a delicious piece of fruit do you think that happiness is contained within it’s walls and you just absorb that joy as you eat it? While you are having a wonderful conversation with a friend or partner do they just exude happiness and you absorb it? Of course not! Happiness, joy, love, hope, fear, resentment, anger, depression all reside and come from you!

What Is Happiness?

So if happiness comes from you, what in the world it it? Why do sometimes you experience happiness and sometimes experience sadness? Now these questions are the bread and vegan butter to your life.

Happiness is nothing more than an indicator of your connection to your Inner Being. Hear this…I’m going to say it again. Happiness is nothing more than your indication of your connection to your Inner Being. You can call this Inner Being anything you want to…Spirit, Source of All That Is, Divine Intelligence, Holy Spirit, Soul, God, Guardian Angels, Energy, whatever. Now if you are not a believer of a Presence that pervades all things and supports all life, you’re in the wrong place, scroll to the “x” at the top of the page and go watch some youtube videos.

Abraham-Hicks describe your emotions as a GPS system. Our emotions are a way to know how in alignment we are to our Inner Being. When we feel good that is an indication that we are in alignment with Spirit. When we feel bad that is an indication that we are out of alignment with Spirit. That is all…your emotion does not belong to anyone else other than you because your emotions are your indicator of your alignment with your Inner Being.

How Do I Align With My Inner Being?

Well that’s a very good question!!! Thanks for asking! To go further, your emotions are your indication of how well your THOUGHTS are in, or out of, alignment with your Inner Being. So think for a second about having everything you have ever desired. Think about living your dream life with your perfect partner, your perfect body, your perfect house, in your perfect career. Now when you visualize yourself being in that place you feel good. You align with where the larger part of you, your Inner Being, already is. Your thoughts and beliefs are the creative force in your life and your emotions indicate whether you are aligning with what your Inner Being’s thoughts are upon the same subject!

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When you bottle yourself up in your house and watch reality TV, then judge the people on TV, then think about all the things that they have that you want and how they don’t deserve it, you feel bad! You feel like shit don’t you? And why do you feel that way? Because the thoughts you are currently thinking and the thoughts your Inner Being have about that same topic are in complete misalignment! But when you go outside for a walk, listening to the birds singing, thinking about how great your body feels and how warm the sun feels on your skin you feel great! Because in that moment the thoughts you are thinking are in complete alignment with your Higher Self!

How Do I Hold Onto Happiness?

Goodness, you are just full of great questions! 😉 Happiness is not something you need to hold onto because it is never outside of you. No matter how many times you get thrown into anger or fear or sadness, happiness is your natural state of being. One thing you can hold onto is the fact that happiness is your natural state. Babies come into this world full of joy. Why do you think so many people are drawn to a smiling baby? Because in that moment of sheer joy shining from the baby you are reminded of the beauty of life.

Happiness, just like any emotion, is simply an indicator. When you remind yourself of that, and begin to believe it, you know without a doubt that happiness is literally just a thought away. So the question really becomes, “How can you be a deliberate focuser of your thoughts?” How can you right now redirect your thoughts so that happiness and joy emanate from you? How can you change the thoughts you’ve been thinking right now so that you bring forth more joy from within?

When you begin to see that there is a stream of well-being that abounds in this reality, you begin to let go of all the thoughts that cause you to feel fear. When you begin to realize that joy is the state of nature, then you rest the constant thinking that overrides you. When you begin to believe that there is a Presence that wants only the best for you, when you cultivate that faith, happiness can only be there within you.

What Can I Do To Be Happy?

Now that’s the question you should be asking!

The first thing you can do it develop a practice that brings you into the now. I suggest meditation or ecstatic dancing. The sheer purpose of these practices is to develop awareness of the now moment by recognizing that you are the director of your thoughts, and not that your thoughts direct you. These help to bring you into your now, forgetting all the things could happen or might happen, and allow you to be where everything IS happening.

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The second thing you can do is begin being thankful for this life and everything you possess in it. Gratitude without a doubt flips the switch in your brain and enacts the great Law of Attraction to work for you. Waking up in the morning and starting to think thoughts about all the wonderful things in your life connects you immediately with your Inner Being and gratitude ensues. Gratitude and happiness are on a vibrational equivalent and as you think thoughts that cultivate gratitude, the Law of Attraction brings you similar thoughts that match those thoughts.

The last thing you can do is read books that help you change your perspective, and to get out and move your body. Reading books that remind you of your innate potential enhance the mind and the soul, and getting out and exercising or moving enhance your body. The effects of exercise on happiness are too numerous to count. When you are enriching your mind, body, and spirit you can bet your sexy ass that your feelings of happiness will overflow.

BE Happy!

I hope that this little meandering has helped you to realize that only YOU can create your own happiness. I hope you’ve come to realize that you can get out of your own way. You have every opportunity to live a life that is deserving of you, and not only can you but you should! The Source of All That Is did not build a world where suffering is the only option and the dominant force. Happiness, joy, love are our true reminders of our innate beauty and potential. When you remember that, when you truly begin to believe that once again, happiness will be your overriding feeling. You’ll remember how perfect you are and how with practice, and then with habit, that happiness is a choice and it is accomplished through your thoughts.

 

With All My Love,

Zach ❤ 🙂

Workout of the Day December 21, 2015

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Physical Workout of the Day:

My Rounds = 6 + 1 K2E (24 inch box)

Shauna’s Rounds = 6 + 6 BBJ (18 inch box)

Spiritual Workout of the Day:

Mantra Meditation

Today’s workout is for aligning with a single pointed mindset through our meditation. The 3 mantras to choose from during this meditation will be “I AM,” “I am Love,” or “I am protected.” For this meditation find a comfortable sitting position or lying position. Set a timer for 15-20 minutes and start it. Uncross all of your limbs and close you eyes. Bring your awareness to your breath and begin feeling the rise and fall of your abdomen, breathing in and out through your nose. Your focus for the first few minutes will be on allowing your breath to move from your chest and into your abdomen. Do not control the depth or speed of your breath, allow it to be, yet simply guide its movement from the chest and move it into the belly. Once the breath has moved into the belly you will begin your mantra. For the first mantra, as you inhale you will say “I” and as you exhale saying “AM.” For the second and/or third mantra, as you inhale you will say ” I am” and as you exhale you will say “Love/protected” depending on which mantra you choose is right for you today. Continue with that pattern until your timer goes off.

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Daily Affirmation:

“You have the ability to change your life. You have the ability to change the world. This ability comes from your ability to allow. to allow Love to be your dominant intent. To allow Source to move through you. to allow all the blessings waiting for you to move into your experience. For when you are connected you thrive and those around you thrive.”

You can see our previous workout for a releasing process in which you can connect with your Divine Feminine essence and allow any gunned up energy be released 😉

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Workout of the Day December 17, 2015

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Physical Workout of the Day:

My Rounds = 6 + 10 HSPUs (30 lb DBs)

My Time = 5 + 8 Walking Lunges (20 lb DBs)

Mental Workout of the Day:

Ecstatic Dancing

Ecstatic dancing is a mindfulness meditation. Put on your 3 favorite songs, close your eyes, and dance. Move your body with the rhythms of the music. Don’t worry about what is happening, just allow your body to move as the music infuses the cells of your body. You can do anything you want, no one will be in the room other than you. All you have to allow yourself to do is move and feel free. When the 3 songs are done just stand and feel your feet connected to the ground. Feel the energy of your body connecting you with the energy of the earth, Gaia. Stand there and feel the support of your Mother as long as you like and then you are finished with today’s workout.

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Daily Affirmation:

“It’s often easy to forget how far we’ve come. Think back at the times in your life that seemed most difficult and how every time you made it through.”

You can see the previous workout if you would like a process/meditation to help open your heart of stuck energies and release & heal past wounds 😉

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Workout of the Day December 7, 2015

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Physical Workout of the Day:

My Rounds = 4 + 8 Ring Dips (155 lbs)

Shauna’s Rounds = 4 + 6 Deadlifts (95 lbs)

Spiritual Workout of the Day:

Heart Breathing…

This is a simply heart meditation/breathing technique which enables you to ground yourself and consciously connect to your heart and intuition.

Start by finding a comfortable sitting position. Close your eyes and place your right hand over your heart. Keeping your mouth gently closed begin breathing in and out through your nose. Allow your breathing to naturally move into your belly, feeling your belly expand as you inhale and relax as you exhale. Once you feel your abdomen moving with your breath, focus your awareness on your heart. Begin to feel your heart breathing you. Feel your heart expand as you inhale and relax as you exhale. Maintain your awareness on your heart, expanding and contracting with each breath. Continue as long as you would like with this meditation, but at least 5 minutes.

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Daily Affirmation:

“Trying amplifies the lack of belief in oneself, in the Laws of the Universe, in Source Itself, in well-being.” ~Abraham-Hicks

You can see our previous workout if you would like a process to raise your clear stuck energy in your energetic body through movement and letting go 😉

Feel free to contact me if you are interested in life coaching and personal training services I offer…