So I just read an article regarding the top 5 tips to be a women’s best lover everrrrr! The tips made me think of a few things and here is what came to mind.

First, sex is a way to express the internal feelings we have for our partner. Sex, in and of itself, is a way to BE with someone in the most vulnerable way possible and trust them fully and exchange a part of yourselves. The very act of sex is simply to express the passion and connection we feel with our partner and to allow that to flow through us, uninhibited, and connect with that person.

Second, there is nothing cool about being the best lover ever if ultimately you are aiming to achieve that label in order to fill an already existing void within the depths of your being. Being the best lover ever means nothing to your soul if you are unable to connect with that person on a level that goes beyond what you can see and into the depths of what you feel.

Lastly, and most important, there is so much damn pressure about sex, and so many tips from this person and that person, and everything else that goes along with it that we all just need to chill the heck out! You know what makes you a great lover?! Being able to feel the heart of the person in front of you! Being able to be free with the person who makes you smile and laugh and worry and that you love unconditionally! We all want to be the best lover possible because we are afraid to accept that we just might be average. We might not look the best naked, we may not have the sought after parts, we may not move our hips the most desirably, but all that is just bullshit! The most sought after part is your heart, the heart that no matter how scared you get, will always connect with the person you’re making love with.

There is so much crap that we’ve heard and read and although those people have been well meaning, did any of them say, “Make sure to engage in sex only when you feel you have the trust and respect for the person you are experiencing it with,” more than likely not. See, sex truly is such a natural thing, but our minds get in the way. We think we need to do this, or be that, or pull out this move or that move, or…….it’s all really so easy.

It’s easy because sex is about partnership, it’s about connection. Does partnership require communication? Yes. Does partnership require respect? Yes. Does partnership require openness? Yes. Does partnership require fun? Yes. If those things are present in you and your partner’s sex, then you ARE the best lover ever! You are the best lover because you are present and open to your lovers suggestions, you are open to talking about sex and trying new things, you are comfortable enough to be present with that person and dissolving into infinity. If you want to be the best lover ever, save your love for the person who brings you closest to Source Consciousness, then there will be no questions!

All my Love,




I want to start this post by saying that many of you may not agree with what I am about to write, but this is something that I feel is necessary.

Just now, I watched a music video…Robin Thicke’s “Blurred Lines.” Then I watched Justin Timberlake’s video, “Tunnel Vision.” These videos have taken quite a lot of heat for having topless women in them, which I understand. Robin Thicke’s video of women blatantly prancing around topless seems to depreciate women. However, as I watched Justin Timberlake’s video I found something else emanating from that video and that is what I would like to write about tonight…

In this new age of the feminine energies rising up, balancing the masculine, it is still apparent that many women are stuck in their past ways of mental conditioning. They still take offense to the fact that women are being “sexualized” on TV and videos such as the ones I’ve mentioned. Yes, this is still the cases in some instances. Yet, when David Beckham is naked with very little underwear on, women have no complaints. Likewise, when “True Blood” male characters are seen completely nude, full frontal nudity, women are ecstatic to have seen such a feat.

I myself, am not a women in this incarnation. I am a man, with predominantly masculine energies. I have been female incarnations in past lives, but here, now, I embody a more masculine essence. This post is not an attack, but something to cultivate questioning…

My dear sisters, why do you take offense to your form? Why is it offensive, and collectively offensive, to show the female form in all of its glory to the world? I will hear many say that it is because men will abuse that form and not appreciate it. That sexualizing women is inappropriate and causes men to look at women as objects. That sexualizing women leads to rape and other horrendous acts perpetuated by men. All of these answers have a strong validity to them and I agree. But does not this “feminist” attitude of almost being ashamed of displaying the perfection that is the Goddess incarnate, contradict the ability to establish the Goddess fully within your being and consciousness?

I would like to do an exercise with my sisters for just a minute. As soon as you read this please do this visualization and then comment to let me know what you experienced…
Close your eyes. I want you to imagine that you are the Goddess, the embodiment of Love, sensuality, ecstasy, wisdom, healing, the totality of all life, creation. Imagine that you fully embody all of these characteristics and walk. Walk amongst a garden of flowers, the pickles of grass beneath your feet, the smell of dew in the morning air, and FEEL what your body feels like. Experience the sensations in your body. The grounded nature of your feet in contact with Mother Earth, honoring all of her creative and nurturing abilities that are within you. Feeling the sacred sensuality that Aphrodite has bestowed within your deepest heart. The wisdom of all the healers that have come before you, embedded within your cells. Now touch your skin with that presence. Glide your fingertips against your skin feeling the pulsing vibrations of Life. How do you feel? Do you feel that you are the life-giving energy to the masculine. Do you feel that your clothing enhances your beauty or restricts the glory emanating from each cell of your body. Are you ashamed of the beauty that you possess or are you freely open, fully open?

You see my sisters, this is who you are. This is why you chose as a feminine form, with a feminine essence, to come forth into this earth experience. The Goddess honors her Self. She is open fully to giving her Love, her nurturing, her sensuality, because she realizes that she is the life-giving force behind all creation. From her comes the inspiration that the masculine seeks. From her comes the nourishment of Truth. From her comes the ecstasy that no masculine can ever comprehend, yet feels fully.

James Brown was wrong when he said it is a man’s world. This is fully, and has always been, a women’s world. My sisters, I am not saying to go forth in public fully nude and flaunt your body. What I do say though is that you have come forth to embody the Goddess, and the Goddess is not ashamed of her form. She celebrates her beauty, she knows that her outward form is a representation of within. She walks with an openness honoring her brothers and sisters, her children, nourishing them with her life-giving Love in every aspect of life. She moves with a grace and sensuality that can only be recognized as Divinity incarnate. The masculine bows to her and she demands that her God rise up to meet her glory. The Goddess demands of her God, nothing other than respect and Presence.

However, my dear sisters if you do not respect yourselves, and your forms, nor respect your sisters who are expressing their aspects of the Goddess, the majority will continue to believe that it is a man’s world.

Do I agree with women being naked on music videos? In most cases, no. Because women are being demeaned, they are looked at as objects rather than Goddesses. However, as I watch Justin Timberlake’s video I do agree with it. These women are celebrating their sensuality. They are embracing their Goddess as best they know how and it moves across the screen. Hiding the feminine form is just as bad as hiding the masculine form. We hide behind our clothing just as we hide behind our hearts.

Am I suggesting we all become nudists, no. Am I suggesting that we look deeper within ourselves and let our walls be broken down, yes. Am I suggesting that the female form receive more praise for its beauty, no matter what shape, color, and size it is, yes. Am I suggesting that in order to break down thousands of years of collective pain-bodies we must celebrate who we are internally and let that shine forth externally, you bet ya! Am I suggesting that my sisters embody their Goddess fully and let that shine forth, no matter if they have clothing on or off, 100% yes! Am I suggesting that as women demand that their masculine counterpoint embody his God, it will collectively cause men to rise up to meet them, Uh huh!! And am I suggesting that all women are the most beauty-full embodiment of the Goddess and they should remember that, of course!

If the media shows your sister, in her naked form, celebrate that, don’t sexualize it. Don’t succumb to the media’s idea that being naked means being sexual. Being naked is an open expression of the inner Goddess. You don’t have to wear clothing to be respected, you have to embody your inner Truth and therefore DEMAND respect through your essence. Celebrate who you are my sisters! Celebrate your inner Goddess, bring her forth, so that whether you are wearing a business suit or completely nude, others bow to your glory. You are truly Divine, you can be nothing else. And support each of your sisters celebrating their Goddess as well. I know that I always will.

All My Love,
Zach IAM




I want to preface this post by saying that I am speaking to my brothers with a predominantly masculine essence who are in committed loving relationships with their partner. All beings contain both masculine and feminine essences, however the majority of us predominantly have one or the other. The way to know if you have a masculine essence is to ask yourself, “In a committed, intimate relationship, would I rather be the predominantly ravager or the ravagee?” If you would rather be the ravager, then you more than likely have a predominantly masculine essence. As spiritual beings we chose to come forth into, and experience, a stronger essence, either masculine or feminine, so that we may fulfill the tasks we set for ourselves. As such, brothers, this one’s for you…

As a masculine essence you came forth from Non-Physical, Spirit, Source, Infinite Principle, Good Principle, God Principle, to move through the chaos that is the Feminine energy with fervor, with passion, with skill, with Love. You chose to enter into a masculine essence because you wanted to move through, around, above, below, the obstacles that the feminine essence displayed to you so that you could strengthen your Self. You wanted to strengthen the Active Principle within you so that you may remember that you are God, Spirit, incarnate.

From an unconscious perspective, you chose the partner you are now with because you knew that this partner would be able to challenge you so that you could strengthen your core. You chose this partner because she would cause you to question your self and insure that you grew spiritually. You chose her because somewhere within you, you knew that she could potentially be the Goddess to your God, the queen to your king.

Now brothers, the most important thing I want to relay to you is that if your woman is nagging you constantly, IT IS YOUR FAULT! Very simply, the reason your woman is nagging you is because she no longer trusts you to be her King. She no longer trusts your masculine core. You have become lazy, you have denied your Self, you have stopped giving your gift to the world, and in doing so your woman no longer respects you. It is blunt, but it is true.
If you are with a woman who you were once madly in Love with and could see being with no other woman, yet she constantly nags you, it is your fault!

Your woman’s nagging is an unconscious way of her Feminine challenging your Masculine. More times than you’d realize, our women can see who we are before we can. They can see not only potential within us, but can see that core Masculine strength which we possess. If you are not living up to this core strength which you carry within you at all times, your woman begins to challenge you in order to stimulate your recognition of that.

Some of my brothers will say, “But I’m tired I want to sit down and relax and watch TV.” You have now allowed life to drain you of your inner strength. The reason your sex life has become nothing, like two fishes flopping around out of water together, is because your woman has now had to compensate and dwindle her Feminine essence while taking on more masculine qualities, and that is NOT her responsibility! That’s why she chose YOU! She no longer respects you because you allow this thing you call life to drain you. How are you going to open her to God through your loving if life’s simple experiences drain your Life Force?

In giving in to your woman’s commands you have now relinquished everything that has made you the King in her eyes. A happy wife is NOT a happy life. That is laziness and that is weakness! A woman must respect her man! She must respect that he has the enduring strength to stand in his complete Presence and give his deepest gifts to the world. She must respect that no matter what turmoils might seem to be placed in his path he has the ability to maneuver around them with skill and ease. She must respect that with every challenge she provides him, he will rise to the occasion and stand among the mountain top with Love in his heart and Light from his being.

You can be a stay-at-home dad, while still being able to give your gifts from your deepest heart. It does not matter that you bring home the bacon, it does not matter that you have chest hair and a beard, what matters is that your woman can trust that you will carry her with you to the Peak of Truth….what matters is that your woman respects the Presence with which you stand in every moment of Life…what matters is that you are living true to your Heart so that you may be a guide to others to live from theirs.

My brothers, life is not trying to beat you down, it is challenging to become the man you wished to become as you chose to step forth into this physical vessel. Your woman is an extension of Life. You came forth knowing that you would embody the Active Principle of Life. You knew within the deepest place of your heart that nothing in life could hinder you from giving your gifts. You knew that within you was the Principle that creates worlds, was the Light that could cut through any darkness. You knew that you would choose a partner who would help you remember that and that she would be your most precious gift…for she would see you as the God You are, knowing fully of what you are capable, as you would honor her Goddess.

Remember your strength my brothers. Live true to your heart, for that is where you will remember why you are here, and which gifts you will give. For in your heart you can laugh at the obstacles that enter your path because you embody the Active Principle of God, and nothing can disturb that Presence. Love your woman with the Love that creates worlds. Love your woman that causes Angels to weep. Give your Love to ALL your brothers and sisters. You are One with the Creator, you are that very thing, as is your woman, as are your brothers, as are your sisters. Be You.

All My Love,
Zach IAM

Let’s Talk About Sex


Hello my Lovelies,

Lately I have been discussing the topic of sex with quite a few people. Many of my friends are having a difficult time with this topic. It seems ironic since I have engaged in none of it for some time now, however it seems that our opinions and beliefs are really holding us back from really determining for ourselves why we are engaging in sex, or love-making. This evening, while I was at the gym, a wonderful man I am friends with was explaining to me his opinion of sex. His belief was that pre-marital sex ruined relationships and I’d like to share my Truth with all of you that I shared with him.

You see, sex in and of itself is not a temptation, it is not a path to sin, quite the contrary. Sex, as it was intended by the Divine Principle, was very much a beauty-full experience that many spirit BEings came forth wanting to participate in. Sex is a highway to higher states of consciousness. When we can understand that love-making is a sharing of one’s life force with another person, it is a blending, a coming together, of two fingers of the same hand, it is opening yourself up and sharing the most intimate parts of yourself with another person, then we understand how that can expand our awareness. The Kamasutra was not a book to show you how to have sex, that is natural. The Kamasutra was a book showing us how to make love to the person we wish to share our soul with, and by doing so reach God Consciousness.

Sex is a key, a key to higher states of understanding who we are and seeing that in others. Think about it for a second. When, or if, you had an experience with someone you felt so deeply connected to when you made love, did it not fill your heart up with so much joy and ecstasy that you wanted to experience that forever? Were you not in a state of union with the Divine as you expressed and felt the eternal Love between you and that other person? We can see how so many can become addicted to that, of wanting to feel that constant state of joy, however many of us don’t understand why we are wanting that, just that we want it.

Sex is also a way to physically express inner feelings towards each other. It is an expression very much that allows us to demonstrate how much we truly care for that person. Also, not to mention, that is a way by which we bring new beauty-full Divine vessels into this physical reality.

However, through our collective lack of understanding, and lack of education, through channels such as religion and schools, we are taught that sex is a bad thing. Sex should be avoided because it is a sin. Sex causes STI’s, and pregnancy, and unwanted labeling, and fear Fear FEAR!!

Now I am not suggesting that situations such as those do not occur from engaging in sex, I am simply suggesting that we go about teaching it to ourselves, others around us, and our children differently.

What if from an age when we began to feel the physical attraction to those we were attracted to, those who we looked up to said to us, “Now, I can see that you are beginning to recognize physical beauty and are becoming interested in engaging in sexual behaviors. I’d like to tell you something very important regarding this topic…

“When you engage in a sexual act with someone, you are sharing the most sacred part of yourself. When you decide to engage in sexual behaviors be aware of who you choose to do it with. You can choose to engage in such an act with someone who honors you, who cares for you, who respects you, and who loves you. Or, you can choose to engage in such an act with someone who disrespects you, who treats you poorly, and who is simply using you for physical gratification. If you choose the first person you will not only experience unlimited joy, but you will learn about who you really are and be able to share that with someone. If you choose the latter, you will experience sorrow, regret, and yearn for someone to fill a void that only you alone can fill.”

What if we were told this simple statement? What if WE spoke this simple statement?

You see, the majority of us have lost sight of why we engage in sex. Many of us do it to fill a void, maybe due to an unloving parent or parental figure or insecurity, and think that by engaging in sex with someone they can somehow fill that void; yet when they leave that void still remains. Some of us have been sexually abused and think that the way we express love is through engaging in sexual activity. Some of us simply do it for physical gratification. There can be many reasons why we engage in sexual behaviors. If you see yourself in one of these situations, I do not want to pass judgement at all, because that is your path and it is beautiful, but if we can gain awareness of why we are engaging is sex, we can understand how we can truly experience it’s purpose.

I have never had an unloving parent, I have never been sexually abused, I have however, at times, just wanted physical gratification. I do not know why you engage in sex, only you know that, I do know however, that if you are reading this you are ready to experience the purpose for which love-making was intended.

We have to remember that we are naturally given feelings of wanting to experience sex for a reason. It is NOT because the devil is inside you and wants to take your soul! It is NOT because we are animals and need to procreate. It is much deeper than that. Sex, Love-making, can be an intense, ethereal, out-of-body experience filled with much joy, ecstasy, and Love, or it can be a unenjoyable, boring, regrettable experience. Either situation is very possible, and sometimes we will have both experiences with the same person. However, if we can enter into such an experience with an awareness of WHY we are going to have sex it can lead to many avenues. It can take us down many paths, it all depends on which one we consciously choose.

I’ll finish by saying, I highly recommend that when you choose to engage in sex, choose someone who you would smile glee-fully at when you woke up next to them in the morning. If you do engage in sex, choose someone who not only makes you smile, but has demonstrated through their words and actions that their eyes for you only. If you do engage in sex, do it with someone who lights up your heart when they enter the room. If you do engage in sex, choose someone who you have gotten to know on a deep level mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. If you do engage in sex, make sure it is with someone who you are willing to bare your soul to. If you do engage in sex, make sure it is with someone you are willing to experience  and see the face of God/Spirit with.

I wish you, my lovelies, all so well on your trekking through sexuality. It is a journey to be walked with awareness.

All My Love,
Zach IAM