Hello my Lovelies,
Lately I have been discussing the topic of sex with quite a few people. Many of my friends are having a difficult time with this topic. It seems ironic since I have engaged in none of it for some time now, however it seems that our opinions and beliefs are really holding us back from really determining for ourselves why we are engaging in sex, or love-making. This evening, while I was at the gym, a wonderful man I am friends with was explaining to me his opinion of sex. His belief was that pre-marital sex ruined relationships and I’d like to share my Truth with all of you that I shared with him.
You see, sex in and of itself is not a temptation, it is not a path to sin, quite the contrary. Sex, as it was intended by the Divine Principle, was very much a beauty-full experience that many spirit BEings came forth wanting to participate in. Sex is a highway to higher states of consciousness. When we can understand that love-making is a sharing of one’s life force with another person, it is a blending, a coming together, of two fingers of the same hand, it is opening yourself up and sharing the most intimate parts of yourself with another person, then we understand how that can expand our awareness. The Kamasutra was not a book to show you how to have sex, that is natural. The Kamasutra was a book showing us how to make love to the person we wish to share our soul with, and by doing so reach God Consciousness.
Sex is a key, a key to higher states of understanding who we are and seeing that in others. Think about it for a second. When, or if, you had an experience with someone you felt so deeply connected to when you made love, did it not fill your heart up with so much joy and ecstasy that you wanted to experience that forever? Were you not in a state of union with the Divine as you expressed and felt the eternal Love between you and that other person? We can see how so many can become addicted to that, of wanting to feel that constant state of joy, however many of us don’t understand why we are wanting that, just that we want it.
Sex is also a way to physically express inner feelings towards each other. It is an expression very much that allows us to demonstrate how much we truly care for that person. Also, not to mention, that is a way by which we bring new beauty-full Divine vessels into this physical reality.
However, through our collective lack of understanding, and lack of education, through channels such as religion and schools, we are taught that sex is a bad thing. Sex should be avoided because it is a sin. Sex causes STI’s, and pregnancy, and unwanted labeling, and fear Fear FEAR!!
Now I am not suggesting that situations such as those do not occur from engaging in sex, I am simply suggesting that we go about teaching it to ourselves, others around us, and our children differently.
What if from an age when we began to feel the physical attraction to those we were attracted to, those who we looked up to said to us, “Now, I can see that you are beginning to recognize physical beauty and are becoming interested in engaging in sexual behaviors. I’d like to tell you something very important regarding this topic…
“When you engage in a sexual act with someone, you are sharing the most sacred part of yourself. When you decide to engage in sexual behaviors be aware of who you choose to do it with. You can choose to engage in such an act with someone who honors you, who cares for you, who respects you, and who loves you. Or, you can choose to engage in such an act with someone who disrespects you, who treats you poorly, and who is simply using you for physical gratification. If you choose the first person you will not only experience unlimited joy, but you will learn about who you really are and be able to share that with someone. If you choose the latter, you will experience sorrow, regret, and yearn for someone to fill a void that only you alone can fill.”
What if we were told this simple statement? What if WE spoke this simple statement?
You see, the majority of us have lost sight of why we engage in sex. Many of us do it to fill a void, maybe due to an unloving parent or parental figure or insecurity, and think that by engaging in sex with someone they can somehow fill that void; yet when they leave that void still remains. Some of us have been sexually abused and think that the way we express love is through engaging in sexual activity. Some of us simply do it for physical gratification. There can be many reasons why we engage in sexual behaviors. If you see yourself in one of these situations, I do not want to pass judgement at all, because that is your path and it is beautiful, but if we can gain awareness of why we are engaging is sex, we can understand how we can truly experience it’s purpose.
I have never had an unloving parent, I have never been sexually abused, I have however, at times, just wanted physical gratification. I do not know why you engage in sex, only you know that, I do know however, that if you are reading this you are ready to experience the purpose for which love-making was intended.
We have to remember that we are naturally given feelings of wanting to experience sex for a reason. It is NOT because the devil is inside you and wants to take your soul! It is NOT because we are animals and need to procreate. It is much deeper than that. Sex, Love-making, can be an intense, ethereal, out-of-body experience filled with much joy, ecstasy, and Love, or it can be a unenjoyable, boring, regrettable experience. Either situation is very possible, and sometimes we will have both experiences with the same person. However, if we can enter into such an experience with an awareness of WHY we are going to have sex it can lead to many avenues. It can take us down many paths, it all depends on which one we consciously choose.
I’ll finish by saying, I highly recommend that when you choose to engage in sex, choose someone who you would smile glee-fully at when you woke up next to them in the morning. If you do engage in sex, choose someone who not only makes you smile, but has demonstrated through their words and actions that their eyes for you only. If you do engage in sex, do it with someone who lights up your heart when they enter the room. If you do engage in sex, choose someone who you have gotten to know on a deep level mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. If you do engage in sex, make sure it is with someone who you are willing to bare your soul to. If you do engage in sex, make sure it is with someone you are willing to experience and see the face of God/Spirit with.
I wish you, my lovelies, all so well on your trekking through sexuality. It is a journey to be walked with awareness.
All My Love,
2 thoughts on “Let’s Talk About Sex”
I am afraid you have eluded the entire true essence of sex and sexuality. A simple question remains: ” once you have given yourself away to (anyone) a lover, what remains to give to that one you marry? I am afraid you advice is meaningless and void of any substance. I wonder your true motive for placing your post into a religious category? Can you explain that? By the way it’s called “fornification.”
Mmm 🙂 Wonderful question, thank you so much for this! You see, we can never give ourselves away. Sex is but a blending, a physical union, of the already eternal One. Your soul is not YOUR soul…it is but an extension of Spirit, a finger of the hand of God…although it can be viewed as a finger it is very much just as beautiful and very important to the hand. This post is not a religious post my dear friend. This is a post about the conscious spiritual expansion which sex can help enhance. You see my dear friend, you confine God, you confine the Absolute Eternal Presence that is God through your beliefs. Beliefs that you have been taught from a book that has been misinterpreted through those who have taught you. That is why I explained at the end to choose carefully with whom you share that intimacy with. And could an omnipresent, omnipotent, omniscient being only be happy of expressing itself through you if you had a ritual and claimed on a piece of paper of your love for another. The Creator only knows the Love you feel for that person, not the legal stuff 😉 If you see it as void of substance and meaningless to you, then so be it. I am honored for your words. If it rings true with others as it does for me, just as well. Love and Light!