I want to know you.
I want to search the depths of your soul,
Every heart break and every let down,
I want to experience your Presence.

I want to move beyond every callous and scar burned into your mind by every man that has let you down,
And I want to heal those wounds with every word, with every touch, with every kiss, and bring you back up.

I want to know you…

I want to know you beyond the mask you put on day to day,
The mask this lost society has taught you to wear,
I want to witness the Light of your heart,
The Light that finally gets to make it’s entrance into the world that so dearly has been asking you to show.

I want to speak to the rhythms of your soul,
The gentle flow of life that so beautifully moves through you.
The current that has fought its way forth through all the darkness that seemed to bear no way out,
The stream that so gently moves its way closer and closer to breaking down the walls of the men of your past.

I want to know you…

You see, I want to know you beyond the grace you wear so well,
I want to look into your eyes for hours and let them tell me the story of your life,
The ups and downs, the fear, the Love, I want it all.

I want to soak you in the Love of the Creator,
Softening every sadness, every heartbreak, every insecurity.
Until that Love has surrounded you and filled you so deeply,
That there is no way you would ever be able to deny the perfection that you truly are.

I want to know you…

I want to stand at the foot of your throne,
Bowing down to the Goddess that I see before me,
The embodiment of Divinity, the giver of Life,
I want to worship your very essence, breathe in the gift of your Love.

I want to know you…

You know they say that behind every heart lies the seat of the soul, but that’s not true,
Because when I look at you, when I stare into your eyes, our souls unite…right in front of me.

Zach ❤




This title is a trick question, because ladies let’s be honest…what you want in your head and what you want in your heart do not always match up…nor does it always match up for men. I absolutely LOVE talking about relationships because they are so much FUN! I want to write this not only for my sisters so that you can consciously understand why you are doing what you are doing at times, but for my brothers so that you can stop blaming your woman for your failures and shortcomings. So, this post is meant for those women with a Feminine Essence and men with a Masculine Essence. To recognize if you have a Feminine or Masculine Essence ask yourself, “Do I want to be ravaged or be the ravager?” The Feminine wants to be ravaged by the Masculine and opened to God, and the Masculine wants to ravage and break through the chaos of the Feminine so that it can experience God. With that being said, here we go…

Sisters, first and foremost, do not expect your man to fully understand you. You can hardly consciously understand yourselves, and no matter how many romantic comedies you watch, no man will ever FULLY understand you. Will a man who is fully embodied in his Divinity be more aware of you and be able to flow with you more easily, absolutely…but do not expect your man to know exactly what you want. Secondly, recognize that as a Feminine Essence, you are the embodiment of the totality of Life. You are the ocean of Consciousness and Love, you are the chaos of Life, you need movement, your need expressive expansion, you are nurturing, you are healing, you are the Goddess.

As a woman with a Feminine Essence you want your opposite, we all do. The Feminine wants her Masculine counterpart to enter into the Unity of Life. I am not saying that you NEED your counterpart because ultimately we all have aspects of both the Masculine and Feminine but we tend to be predominantly one. So the Feminine wants to open to Infinite Consciousness through her partnership with the Masculine. Ladies, if you can understand this next point you will begin to understand why you are attracted to jerks…

A Masculine Essence is stability, is rigidity, is directiveness, is take-control-ive-ness, is Light, is active, is direct movement, is grounded Presence. Most men, especially after they have been in a relationship for a while, my past-self included, lose sight that they are Infinite Focused Presence. They become wimpy and push-overs. There responses become, “Yes dear…Okay dear…why are you so naggy dear?” They begin to blame their woman for their short-comings because they think if they don’t succumb to their woman’s wants they will lose her.

What a woman’s heart truly wants is her King. She wants a man who she can trust. She wants a man who will show the world that she is HIS. She wants a man to worship her Inner Goddess. She wants to be seen as the object of pure desire in her man’s eyes. She wants to unconsciously test her man again and again and again and know that his strength will not be moved. She wants a man who is so strong in his Presence that nothing can move his core. She wants a man who is giving his gift to the world with full openness, penetrating all barriers that life seems to throw his way. She wants a man that she can put her faith in and know that he will walk with her as he holds her hand. A woman who when confused at life around her, can come to her man and be calmed by his humor and in his loving!

I say these things and I do not mean a man who will not do the dishes, who will not love his children, who is so rigid that he will not change his beliefs, but a man that is so present within himself that he can wash the dishes with fluidity, that can love his children with his whole heart, and that will adapt to new thoughts and beliefs that come his way.

A superior man cannot be drained by the world because in giving his gift he is constantly renewed.

Each woman who reads this will say YES! YES I do! But women, you must also recognize that you CHOSE your partner. You chose him for some reason. It could been because your Feminine was attracted to his Masculine, it could have been because you settled because the sex was good, it could have been for a variety of reasons, but you did choose your man. The question you would ask yourself is do I trust my man with my heart? If I don’t trust my man with my heart, why am I not opening fully to life? As a Feminine Essence you thrive when you are open and accepting of life. The ocean does not fight the rain, it accepts it. You do not have to accept anger and abuse, but you do have to make the conscious choice to be open to life with a full heart…for there will you experience the joy of Femininity.

Now, men, my brothers, Masculine Essences, being Masculine does not mean being a meat-head. It does not mean forcing anything upon anyone. It does not mean holding so rigid that you break. It does not mean being butch and egoic. It means that you have the choice right now to live true to the words of your heart. To be grounded and to walk with that Presence. It means to find the deepest gift of your heart, and to share it unendingly with the World.

Being Masculine means taking the challenges of your women as gifts to able to stay center in your Being and penetrate all choas. These are gifts that your woman is providing you to strengthen your inner knowing and to trust fully in that knowing…

I will end this post here for today. My dear sisters, thank you for being the goddesses that you are! My dear brothers, thank you for being the Gods that you are! Now choose to embody fully your Essence and live true to that always! Until next time…

All My Love,
Zach IAM

Why Do You Want a Relationship?


Very simply, it is because we want to experience another person expressing the way Divine Principle sees us. We want someone to call us beautiful, or smart, or funny, or wonderful, or…you get the picture. Why is it not enough that we see those things in ourselves?

Well, most of us don’t see that we are beautiful, or smart, or funny, or wonderful. We don’t view ourselves that way. We don’t see ourselves that way and when someone comes along saying we’re smart, and attractive, and wonderful we “fall in…” well we fall in something. Sometimes it’s love, sometimes its lust, sometimes that person really is somebody very special who we will share in a beautiful co-creative experience together. However, WHY we enter a relationship is the most important thing we must consider.

The majority of people go in and out of relationships wanting someone to make them feel a certain way. Some people want it to be “in love” so badly that they just jump in to every possible relationship. Some people just want to not feel lonely.

The reason so many relationships fail is because we are constantly asking our partners to make us feel a certain way. We think it is our job to make them feel a certain way, so it should be their job to make us feel a certain way. And then you wonder why you are unhappy and/or your relationships end? It is nobody’s responsibility to make you feel happy! Nor is it your job to make anyone else happy! Even parents…it is not your job to make your children happy. As a parent it is your job to be the best possible example for your child and allow them to make mistakes and grow as you had to make mistakes and learn from them as well. If you are smothering your children you are doing a disservice to them. You are the parent you are today because of your mistakes and the growth you experienced from them…allow your children the same opportunity so they may become just as wonderful as you!

So why do you want a romantic relationship? Have you been thinking about it while reading this?

You must be accepting and loving of yourself before you engage in a partnership with another person. If you want to meet the love of your life, and if you have, continue the relationship you cherish, you must enter into the partnership happy and loving of yourself. Or else your half of the whole, won’t be so much of a half, and your partner will have to fill the gaps. We must begin to look at ourselves as our Higher Self sees us, as God sees us.

When we begin to look at ourselves as beautiful, smart, funny, and wonderful we no longer need anyone else to make us feel that way. When we see ourselves as the magnificent, perfect expressions of Divinity, that is when we can enter into the partnership that will give us all we’ve wished for and more! Do not allow movies to influence you to believe that having another person will make you whole. You are whole! Right now! All you have to do is recognize it! When you see your own beauty and amazing-ness you will walk through the world with that regality. You don’t need somebody else to tell you that, because you already know that.

Your soul is whispering to you how beautiful you are every minute of every day…don’t allow your mind to intrude on that. Accept it! That is God whispering to you, right here, right now, right within you, that you…are…beautiful! Bring that awareness to your experiences.

I do want to say, it is perfectly well that you want to enter into a relationship. We are here in these beautiful temples to experience relationships in all different forms. That is a major part of the human experience. However, be aware of WHY you want to enter into a relationship. When you are aware of why you can then recognize the person who will bring their whole to complete the relationship circle.

With All My Love,


Why are relationships difficult?

Why are relationships difficult?

Relationships are a partnership. Relationships are a coming together of 2 individual perspectives forming another perspective. It is not 2 coming together as one…it is 2 coming together to make 3. In this world we live in, typically each culture aims to create a power struggle between each gender. Who has the power in the relationship, etc. What we must understand is that when we are entering into an intimate relationship with another perspective we have to hold that idea that we are creating a new entity…your perspective, your partner’s, AND a relationship perspective.

Many of us aim to change the person we are entering into the relationship with to fit our ideals, which is opposite of what the relationship is for. The relationship is the merging of both your unique ideas and actions and having a playground of enjoyment to enjoy each others’ perspectives. It is not to force the other person to believe what you believe, talk the way you want them to talk, speak the way you want them to speak, dance how you dance, act as you act…it is an area where you allow that other person to be who they wish to be while they allow you to be who you want to be. It is not a space where your ego “plays a mind-game” to determine who has more power.

Although movies are nice and often times can inspire us, do not allow the idea that the thing you are missing is love from another person. You are your own love! Nobody presses their love upon you…it always comes from within you. When you find someone who brings that love out from within you, understand that, that it is from within you and this person was simply a catalyst for that. 🙂 When that is realized that person’s actions or words can never take that love from you because it always has and will resonate from within you.

Relationships are difficult because we do not understand the platform for which they are developed. We watch our parents do this or do that and think its normal…or we watch a movie and think, “Awe, that is true love.” You do not need another person to cuddle you and hold you close for you to acknowledge your own worth. You do not need someone to tell you are beautiful to know you are beautiful. Nor is it okay to stay in a relationship where another doesn’t respect you. If you enter into a relationship always looking for someone else to make you feel a certain way as soon as he/she stops saying or doing those things, you become upset and the relationship dissolves. You MUST acknowledge your own self-worth before you enter into a relationship with anybody else if you want to experience to a true meaningful relationship.

Do you want your relationship to succeed? Then realize that a relationship is a team…is a partnership. That means that you are in it together…but also that you maintain your individual perspective. If you are always focused on your own individual perspective and trying to win in the power struggle, the relationship suffers. If you do not cultivate continually your unique perspective, the relationship struggles and you suffer. It is a balance. Realize that if you do not feel whole then the missing part is not someone to fill that gap, but only the love for yourself that can fill it.

And lastly, communicate. If you are in a relationship and are still afraid to express yourself fully to that person, why are you in that relationship? A romantic relationship is being best friends with someone who you can also express the love you feel for that person physically. We must be able to communicate completely with an open heart in order to reap the benefits in a relationship. By limiting communication with your partner you are not guarding your heart, or protecting yourself, or anything else that you have been taught to believe…you are simply limiting the expansion that will occur in the relationship…you are limiting the possible joy and unencumbered bliss that will come about from that openness.

I wish us all a beautiful, open, blissful experience upon our paths in relationships and life. We have come to experience this reality with wonder and enjoyment and at the top of that list is co-creation with the other beautiful personalities upon this earth. Do not fear…when you find wholeness within yourself you will find wholeness in a relationship with another. Take the leap…enjoy the fall…the net is waiting at the bottom 😉 Wishing you a wonderful fun journey on your path! Love and Light!!!

All My Love,
Zach ❤